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COMPARISONS Being effective both alone and as a team player vs. Only effective when working alone Being able to manage your own emotions vs. Having temper tantrums, sulking or withdrawing Being able to empathize with others and knowing where they're coming from vs. Not being able to grasp the feelings of others and understand how the emotions are affecting the situation Using an emotional appeal to convince someone of something v. Using an intellectual appeal to convince someone of something Knowing that motivation is a feeling word v. Thinking that motivation is a thinking word EXAMPLE Bill was brilliant in his field and the best IT person in the office as to technical skills, but his people skills were very low. He was abrasive, arrogant, short-tempered, and a perfectionist. Other people didn't like to work with him, and he was unable to explain things in terms other people could understand. Mary, who was also in the IT department, had good technical skills and a good education, though it was less than Bill’s. However, her emotional intelligence more than made up for this. She was able to handle herself and other people well and to explain things calmly and clearly. People loved to work with her and requested her by name. She received promotion after promotion because of her technical expertise and her high emotional intelligence. KEY POINT Many people with very high IQs (cognitive intelligence) do poorly in work and relationships because they have low EQs (emotional intelligence). They sabotage themselves because they can't manage their own emotions or those of other people, and they sabotage projects because they may have all the logical, rational and analytical “answers,” but they don’t have the “soft” skills to move a project forward. BENEFITS Emotional intelligence accounts for more success and happiness in life than intellectual intelligence. RELATED DESTINCTIONS
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