Kindergarden teaching

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My daughter Kayla 4 /12 is in SK (Senior Kindergarden) and recently I had a meeting with her teacher telling

me that she is pushing other kids, and writing on the wall. I don't believe kayla is cabable in doing such things she is to sweet and

inoccent. Its just not her nature to do such things. All her teacher also tell me that she won't pay attention and wont listen.

The teacher leaves Kayla in the classroom by herself to get ready to go outside ( my daughter has a physical dylay she needs

help putting her shoes on) and the teacher doesn't bother to help her. The teacher is aware of this delay.

Kayla never went to Jk so when Kayla is suppose to do printing practice, she will do some of them but only to her likeing and if the teacher is not

happy she pushes kayla harder which makes her resist even more. Is the teacher alowed to do that?. There are times to that kayla wont do the

printing practise, I think its because she doesn't know how cause she does the same thing with me at home and the teacher won't help her.

She will give kayla a piece of paper with the letter written on the top and expect her to write it. When I ask kayla to do printing at

home I get no hassel like the teacher says she gets at school. In fact when I tell kayla to print a letter on a blank piece of paper she is able to do

it. So I don't understand what is going on. Anyone know? Does anyone know if I'm allowed to sit in the classroom and observe what is going on?

Deanne

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I understand, you have a kid who has never been taught to behave for other authority figure adults. You think your child is 100% innocent and instead of listening with an open mind, you immediately proclaim your angel's innocence.

Quit enabling your child
Discipline her and let her know that her behavior about bullying and defiance is unacceptable
quit denying that your kid has a behavior problem. Here's a newsflash, kids act different away from their parents, especially if they subconciously learn that no matter what they do, mommy and daddy will come to their defense.

it's funny, to become a teacher you have to go through 4 years of higher education and pass numerous certifications over and over yet all a person has to do to become a parent, is get knocked up (or knock someone up)

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I am a kindergarten teacher and it sounds like you need to disipline your child. It's funny that parents like you always blame the teacher.

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I know your situation is frustrating for both you and your teacher but it sounds to me like it is most frustrating for your daughter. I taught kindergarten for seven years, haave four children of my own and am renewing my certificate to teach again. You said that Kayla is 4 1/2. She has been diagnosed with a condition of special needs. Many times all young children need is an extra year. I would pull her out of kindergarten and place her in a preschool program. She may be eligable for a head start program but if not there are many churches which offer preschool three days a week and only 1/2 day. Let her achieve and feel good about herself. What's a year really? Give it to her now so she won't think she is a failure. Good luck! Ann Townsend

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Hello. I'm not offically a teacher but have been substituting from time to time. I understand your concerns and frustrations. I also don't have any children of my own but have plenty of nieces and nephews. As others have posted here, children act diffrent when around other adults/children, etc. Perhaps your daughter is having problems adjusting to her surrondings, she may need more attention then other students. Maybe if you have some time you could volunteer in her classroom, observe her behavior, show support. Children should be taught how to be a student by their parents and teachers. Once they know how they should behave and what is acceptable, hopefully they will implement it.

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I am an elementary music teacher, I teach K-6th grades and have a special needs (aspergers) child of my own and another in kindergarten.

First, you are always allowed to sit and observe in any classroom. That is your right as a parent. Second I urge you to take a step back, and even though a mother wants to protect and defend their child. However, she is one of many in a room, and with special needs requires more work.

If you are concerned observe, bring the concerns to the teacher, principle, and special ed teachers to help come up with a plan (where I teach they are called 504's for behavioral/emotional issues). Depending on maturity level you may also consider pulling her out, and start kindergarten when she is 5. In our district you have to be 5 by October 1st to start kindergarten.

hope that helps
Jaime

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Hi, I currently teach Kindergarten. I teach a morning and afternoon class with a total number of 49 children. I have also taught special needs children for 12 years. I have encountered many situations like this--where the parent is not happy with what is going on the classroom. My advice to you as a parent is to talk to the teacher about the problems your child is having in the classroom. Be a good listener to what the teacher is saying. A child with special needs sometimes requires extra assistance that a teacher simply cannot provide because of the number of children in the classroom. If your child needs the extra assistance, perhaps, you can help out in the classroom. Sit with your child and help her focus her attention on the lesson. Help her with the activity. Help other children in the classroom who may have similar problems because I am sure there are others. Be a team player with the teacher and not a parent who is critical. Being critical does nothing to help your child. If your child has an IEP, she should have a Special Education teacher who is responsible to provide accommodations and/or modifications to the curriculum. Talk to that teacher and see if perhaps an aide can spend a few minutes a day in the classroom. My most important advice is to become a team player with the classroom teacher and not an parent that argues and complains about every little thing. If you do, you are setting your child up, for years of problem after problem with classroom teachers--because that is what you have taught her. Good luck.

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I am a parent of three children - my 5 year old is in kindergarten and also has difficulty with in the classroom - I was told I was not allowed to help in the class until the school felt my child was able to follow the rules. Three months later- is still having difficulty and the school will finally allow me to enter the class - this week. I have had some conversations w/ the teacher, IEP team and the principal. I was ready to pull my child out of the class/school because of some hurtful comments the teacher made regarding my child. The truth is - nobody wants a child in their classroom that will give them a hard time and make them work harder. My child is very VERY smart but for some reason the classroom brings out the behaviors. My child can be a handful but I also recognize the brilliance, the creativity, and the strong willful personality ( a quality that will serve my child well as a grown up- not right now). I DO NOT feel that it is the schools responsibility to only educate my child. IT IS OUR JOB AS PARENTS! but a more understanding in the side of the teacher would make a big difference in the child. I don't believe that people that go into teaching do it for the money. I would like to think that all these teachers do this because they want to make a difference in a child life. This is all I ask of my children teachers and that they allow me to help them -help my children. I wish my child teacher would be more kind to my child and more understanding of all parents that have children who seem to have a difficult time in the classroom. Teachers should make an effort to really get to know the child and focus on their strengths as opposed to just their faults and use their strengths to change or modify their inapropriate behaviors. Make that connection w/ the child. And, work w/ the parents. Thrust me we want to help.

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I am a teacher. Please know that when it is time to inform a parent of a concern about their child, the teacher has put thought into what they have to say. It is very difficult for a teacher to report to a parent that their child is having educational difficulties or behavior issues. Calling/conferencing is not an easy task and we do not relish breaking the news. However, it is our job to report what we observe. Would you prefer to be lied to or have your child's issues be swept under the rug?

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The teacher leaves Kayla in the classroom by herself to get ready to go outside ( my daughter has a physical dylay she needs help putting her shoes on) and the teacher doesn't bother to help her. The teacher is aware of this delay.







Not to ask the obvious, but why are your daughter's shoes off? That seems odd.

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I am a Preschool teacher for 3-5 year olds. I have many children in my class that sound just like your daughter. It sounds like she has a stubborn streak.........so unfortunetly her teacher cannot give into her. She has to start wanting to do things on her own before she will do it, and you and the teacher have to start giving her consequences if she decides not to do her work at school. Even though she does things for you at home, you have to let her know that if she doesn't do it at school as well there will be consequences.

Hope this helps!!!

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I am a teacher, qualified to teach K-7...
I am also a mother, aunty, godmother and fostercarer :)
All children react, respond and interact differently to what they do at home, much to the horror and/or disbelief of their parents whether it is in a positive way or a negative way. The truth is, the classroom is a totally different environment to what the child experiences at home, to some it is so foreign that they can either totally withdraw (the shy child) or display unwanted behaviours and actions (verbal, physical).

What the parent must understand is that these issues impact on how a child learns, what they learn, how they interact with their peers and with other adults in a classroom setting. If left unchecked, these behaviours become ingrained and can manifest into more severe learning difficulties and will only worsen as the child grows and devlops. As a parent we never want to hear that our child is having difficulties... however, the worse thing to do is act in denial and wrap them up i cotton wool!

The teacher always has the best intentions for your child, sadly, how these intentions are presented to the parent can vary enormously. Often causing defences and accusations back to the teacher.

The most important thing to remember is THE CHILD... if your child is acting up, please listen to the teacher, they are involved in your childs life for a BIG chunk of time each day (4-5 days a week). Listen to the teacher, work as a team, get the assistance, get the help, get the behaviour plan in place... early intervention is always the best action.

Get over yourself and your thoughts of having a perfect child... no child is perfect... In thinking like that you are doing more long term harm to your child than you could possibly imagine.

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you should have every right to watch your child. kindergartin teachers are wayyy to pushy.