boyfriends & girlfriends

[Unregistered]

dose anyone but me think that by 5 grade most kids should have a boyfriend or girlfriend?????????????????

Excuse me for saying that way, but are you crazy, a 5th grade child is no more than 10 or 11 years old.
I hope you were jocking around when you said that, and i hope you are not a parent.

[Jaken 491]

Excuse me for saying that way, but are you crazy, a 5th grade child is no more than 10 or 11 years old.
I hope you were jocking around when you said that, and i hope you are not a parent.

Whoa i've posted on here so many times and I think I kinda agree with you. You should wait till at least 7th grade to date.

[Unregistered]

NO! A 5 yr old is too young to have a boyfirend.
I am a mother of a 10 month old, an 8 yr old and a 9 yr old.
I tell my daughter now that she needs to focus on her work and not boys..same with my son...
education is far too important to waste time on silly crushes...afterall, they dont really have a boyfriend or girlfriend...they cant take each other out or spend money on each other... That is for high school...and even then, the drama that goes along with immaturity normally ruins any high school relationships.
I relaly think society is way too relaxed when it comes to letting children get on the internet and date at such young ages. I do not let my kids on the internet.
At 5 yrs old.. they dont understand relationships. It is just a bunch of nonsense.!!!!!!

[Jaken 491]

NO! A 5 yr old is too young to have a boyfirend.
I am a mother of a 10 month old, an 8 yr old and a 9 yr old.
I tell my daughter now that she needs to focus on her work and not boys..same with my son...
education is far too important to waste time on silly crushes...afterall, they dont really have a boyfriend or girlfriend...they cant take each other out or spend money on each other... That is for high school...and even then, the drama that goes along with immaturity normally ruins any high school relationships.
I relaly think society is way too relaxed when it comes to letting children get on the internet and date at such young ages. I do not let my kids on the internet.
At 5 yrs old.. they dont understand relationships. It is just a bunch of nonsense.!!!!!!

We're talking about 5th grades not 5 year olds. Learn to read and learn to have fun.

[Unregistered]

yes yes yes

[i thnk im pretty smart :)]

listen here.. having a boyfriend or girlfriend at any appropriate age (to you) is okay to me. i've known kindergardeners who've had "relationships" or more like friendships. they just really like the person. but i also think that parents should set restrictions so that they don't end up doing that. but 5th graders and up seem to handle relationships fairly well even though some are just 2 days long but that just shows that they really didnt like the person and sometimes, i admit (i've done this), we use the term love. we know that it's a strong word but saying "i like you" sounds weird. i have never said i love you, i just avoid it. if you are good parents your kids should obey and respect your restrictions but alot of kids, though you tell them not to, have boyfriends/girlfriends, behind their parents back but im pretty sure (unless they don't understand on how dangerous it is) that they aren't doing anything other than "making out". and some even want serious relationships where they spend months with someone. and it's kind of hard to fight off hormones which is why they disobey parents,alot of the time, not because they don't like them or are bad kids. if they are doing more than kissing than obviously they think they are ready, alot of us have will power to stay a virgin and sometimes fear works, if you are very religious and you want them to stay a virgin til marraige, i think you should go ahead and put fear of god in them that they'll go to hell (that's what keeps me away and i don't dare to try because you can't pull back your virginity), but if your okay with them having intecourse atleast let them know that it's easy to get a girl pregnant or to become pregnant and give them what they need to protect themselves from HIV/AIDS and other STDs. don't lie to them because they will find out (school is full of bad influences), they will know what sex is by 1st grade, i know i did, and they know everything you know. just raise them to be smart, boyfriends and girlfriends arent that bad as long as the kid isn't ignorant. well that's all i have to say :). oh yeahh and if the boy or girlfriend gets in the way of school work, your child REALLY doesn't understand what is instore in the future if she/he doesnt do well in school. to tell the truth i have had all my boyfriends behind my moms back, i'm still a virgin, and i am a A/B student with the exception of 1 c. I have even played truth or dare and only went as far as kissing and that's my lowest point :). so trust your smart child on the most part to be....smart!

[Jaken 491]

Interesting in some parts, it could use more puncuation, though i'm not one to talk. How old are you just out of curiousity?

[Unregistered]

This sounds not only weird but a dangerous proposition. Kids should have friends and many friends. They should not be tied to one BF/GF and spend lonely times. As a matter of fact, even in High School kids are not matured enough to make the appropriate decision. The puberty at the early age fuels the relation to dead end and end up with a new born. Think about this, kids bearing another kid. The life must have lot more rewarding benefits then having a BF/GF at such a young age.

Let me be frank here, we physicians are tired of seeing teenage pregnancies, what a waste of beautiful life ahead. If there was constitutional amendment to enforce “No sexual relationship” policies for teenagers, our society will be lot smarter and will do lot better than other developed countries like Europeans. Either we are too lenient or utterly stupid to encourage our kids to have early relation which has no benefit in life or the society or for the country.

Let’s do our duty as responsible parents and give our children enormous love and care. Furthermore, rewards them handsomely when they strive do to well in school and get admitted to top university in the country. They all should have goals to get admitted in the top university and become professionals. The kids should be like kids, they should play hard and study hard, NOT party hard. They will get enough opportunity to party hard when they graduate from top university with job offer with six figures salary and drive sports cars. These 12 to 18 years of hard work will definitely pay off in the long run. The choices are clear, unless they want to be called Mother or Father at the age of 14.

[Unregistered]

yes yes yes. I think yes

[Unregistered]

This sounds not only weird but a dangerous proposition. Kids should have friends and many friends. They should not be tied to one BF/GF and spend lonely times. As a matter of fact, even in High School kids are not matured enough to make the appropriate decision. The puberty at the early age fuels the relation to dead end and end up with a new born. Think about this, kids bearing another kid. The life must have lot more rewarding benefits then having a BF/GF at such a young age.

Let me be frank here, we physicians are tired of seeing teenage pregnancies, what a waste of beautiful life ahead. If there was constitutional amendment to enforce “No sexual relationship” policies for teenagers, our society will be lot smarter and will do lot better than other developed countries like Europeans. Either we are too lenient or utterly stupid to encourage our kids to have early relation which has no benefit in life or the society or for the country.

Let’s do our duty as responsible parents and give our children enormous love and care. Furthermore, rewards them handsomely when they strive do to well in school and get admitted to top university in the country. They all should have goals to get admitted in the top university and become professionals. The kids should be like kids, they should play hard and study hard, NOT party hard. They will get enough opportunity to party hard when they graduate from top university with job offer with six figures salary and drive sports cars. These 12 to 18 years of hard work will definitely pay off in the long run. The choices are clear, unless they want to be called Mother or Father at the age of 14.I am in 7th grade, and I have A's in every class but Art (In which I have a C... I don't like art.) and I have a GF. But just because I have a GF doesn't mean I do not have friends. I have many friends and we hang out ogether a lot. Also, you shouldn't have to worry about my age group... I know the consequences of STD's (STI's rather) and pregnancies and abortions. My GF and I have taken it to maybe HOLDING HANDS let alone intercourse. I know that I should be careful. But saying that a harmless relationship is dangerous? In that case, cars cause death. The sun causes Global Warming. Spoons made Rosie O' Donnell fat. Honestly! I do not spend times lonely because I don't ignore my friends just to "get a little". Take it easy. And by the by: I take my academics seriously. I go to BC High and I was raised by people make seven figures and driving a Lexus IS and a Jaguar XJ AND an ML550.

[Jaken 491]

I am in 7th grade, and I have A's in every class but Art (In which I have a C... I don't like art.) and I have a GF. But just because I have a GF doesn't mean I do not have friends. I have many friends and we hang out ogether a lot. Also, you shouldn't have to worry about my age group... I know the consequences of STD's (STI's rather) and pregnancies and abortions. My GF and I have taken it to maybe HOLDING HANDS let alone intercourse. I know that I should be careful. But saying that a harmless relationship is dangerous? In that case, cars cause death. The sun causes Global Warming. Spoons made Rosie O' Donnell fat. Honestly! I do not spend times lonely because I don't ignore my friends just to "get a little". Take it easy. And by the by: I take my academics seriously. I go to BC High and I was raised by people make seven figures and driving a Lexus IS and a Jaguar XJ AND an ML550.

Way to show him wrong lol. Although you didnt need to show off your wealth.

[Unregistered]

How would i get a girl to like me sense you gusy talk about relations hips so much.... I'm guessing you guys know how to get people to like you and i really want advices because there's girl at my school that i really like, but I don't know if she likes me or not. And i have a feeling she doesn't because I'm Asian... -,-HELP ME PLZ

[Jaken 491]

How would i get a girl to like me sense you gusy talk about relations hips so much.... I'm guessing you guys know how to get people to like you and i really want advices because there's girl at my school that i really like, but I don't know if she likes me or not. And i have a feeling she doesn't because I'm Asian... -,-HELP ME PLZ

Yo dude. I've never been a relationship before just to tell you ahead of time. What grade are you in? There is no one way to tell her, you could tell her you love her/ask her after school if you get a chance alone with her ( girls always hang out in groups in junior high and before so this could be hard). Or you could give her a love note before some holiday ( or before some big break- I say this because this will give her time to think it over). I plan on giving the girl I love a love note on the last day of school. Last of all, I have no idea why she wouldn't like you because your asian, the fact that your asian shouldn't change how she thinks of you. Good luck!(p.s sorry for the bad grammer)

[Unregistered]

does anyone but me think that by 5 grade most kids should have a boyfriend or girlfriend??

i do think that kids in 4th and 5th graders should be boyfriend and girlfriend because everyday when i walk into my classroom there always kids makingout or flirting and everything else.Then after school we go downtown and have a bite to eat with eachother i also hope then when little kids reach 4th and 5th grade they will do the same,.
i hope you listen to this........
if you have a qute say it thanx
buhbyez
well i wouldn't say that i would be hoping to see 2 10 year olds making out.As a ten year old myself, we don't have the matured enough mind to love or have passion for another kid our age. And trust me 10 year olds don't flirt, we don't even know how to flirt, some kids @ my school don't even know what flirting is! Since you are an adult, i expect better.

[Unregistered]

How would i get a girl to like me sense you gusy talk about relations hips so much.... I'm guessing you guys know how to get people to like you and i really want advices because there's girl at my school that i really like, but I don't know if she likes me or not. And i have a feeling she doesn't because I'm Asian... -,-HELP ME PLZ

first, don't treat her like crap. Second, as a girl myself i can help you.
1. when you are sitting next to her, put your arm around her shoulder.
2.offer to carry her books ( i know this sounds 'old fashion' but it works!)
3.if you run into her at the store say " im getting items for a family member who is not feeling well"
4.never talk too much it will make her think you dont care for her
5. THE HARDEST ONE BUT IT WILL BRING U 2 TOGETHER:ask her if u wanna hang out some time.
6. dont treat her like a guy
7.listen to her problems
8. don't get in her personal bubble right away
9. ask her what type of music she likes
10.dont embarrass her
11.and finally don't act like the guy you aren't (be yourself)
hopefully this will help you with your relationship
oh yeah when the time fells right, you can kiss her.

[Unregistered]

im in the 5th grade i just got my first boyfriend
its part of life
you dont want to be in highschool and get your first broken heart
and maybe he is the one you will marry if u stay together for a long time

[Jaken 491]

:Dfirst, don't treat her like crap. Second, as a girl myself i can help you.
1. when you are sitting next to her, put your arm around her shoulder.
2.offer to carry her books ( i know this sounds 'old fashion' but it works!)
3.if you run into her at the store say " im getting items for a family member who is not feeling well"
4.never talk too much it will make her think you dont care for her
5. THE HARDEST ONE BUT IT WILL BRING U 2 TOGETHER:ask her if u wanna hang out some time.
6. dont treat her like a guy
7.listen to her problems
8. don't get in her personal bubble right away
9. ask her what type of music she likes
10.dont embarrass her
11.and finally don't act like the guy you aren't (be yourself)
hopefully this will help you with your relationship
oh yeah when the time fells right, you can kiss her.

Nice, you gave better Advice than me lol. I found it kinda useful myself.

[Unregistered]

hey
YEs DATEING EARLY IS GOOD! I am a grade 6er and i had a gf last year. No it didnt mess with my studies and stuff, in fact i did awsome when i had a gf. Havin a gf gave me a reason to do good in class cuz right after id go see my gf. And trust me it took us a few weeks before we decided to kiss. When we knew it was time. There was NO chance of anything happening exept for us kissing. The only problem is when they dump you. If u are a 6th grader or somthing reading this take caution. MAKE SURE U ARE READDY TO TAKE THE DUMP BEFORE U DECIDE TO ASK A GIRL OUT! If she says no BACK OFF! so its good to date if u are readdy for it. I was readdy.

Youre right, i had a girlfriend in the 2nd grade later we broke up and next month I got a new but we broke up after a wile and after that ive not had a girlfriend. Now im in the 5th grade i thinks a girl are sweet(havent told her, feel ockward) and i think im more used to it. I think i soon gonna ask her if she wants to hang out just not gets the guts to do it get. The point is you can have a girlfriend when your 5 or 6, doesent matter age it matter how you feel. And its sweet you kiss thats just something making you know eachother closer.

[Unregistered]

Are you out of your mind???? if this is an adult, your just plain crazy, and if a kid, Not gonna happen until probably Middle school.

[Unregistered]

this is crazy! how could they have a gf when they are in grade 5. today someone asks us if getting a bf/gf in grade 5 is ok, tmr someone is probably going to ask us if getting married in grade 3 is ok at this rate. honestly, what is the world coming to?

[Jaken 491]

this is crazy! how could they have a gf when they are in grade 5. today someone asks us if getting a bf/gf in grade 5 is ok, tmr someone is probably going to ask us if getting married in grade 3 is ok at this rate. honestly, what is the world coming to?

Oh how my mind has changed since the begining of this thread... I think that even at grade 5 they should be able to have a relationship. I doubt how long their relationship will last and even how much they love eachother for that matter but they should still have the choice.The world may be changing in this sense but as long as we don't let it get out of hand I think it we will be alright
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[Unregistered]

Oh how my mind has changed since the begining of this thread... I think that even at grade 5 they should be able to have a relationship. I doubt how long their relationship will last and even how much they love eachother for that matter but they should still have the choice.The world may be changing in this sense but as long as we don't let it get out of hand I think it we will be alright
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i forgot to tell u i am a child, and ive seen kids my age(i am 11) getting pregnant(yes, they have been through puberty ect, they grow rather quickly) and i am rather shocked. i hope u change your mind about grade 5s getting a relationship.

[Unregistered]

MWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA

Oh, is this America we are talking about? If that is the case then why not get a relationship? Why not get some freedom? As long as this "distraction" is not happening in China or Australia then i am happy. After all, i don't live in America so if Americans ruin their country by focusing on relationships and not education, well i dont really care.

MWAHAHAHA

[Jaken 491]

MWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA

Oh, is this America we are talking about? If that is the case then why not get a relationship? Why not get some freedom? As long as this "distraction" is not happening in China or Australia then i am happy. After all, i don't live in America so if Americans ruin their country by focusing on relationships and not education, well i dont really care.

MWAHAHAHA

As imature as this sounds, I hope it does happen in China and Australia:D
By the Way Im in Canada, not America.

[Unregistered]

As imature as this sounds, I hope it does happen in China and Australia:D
By the Way Im in Canada, not America.

As immature as this sounds too. i hope it will hapen in America forever :) btw i am Chinese but i live in Australia.

p.s. i was the one who posted in post number 273,272 and 270

[Unregistered]

As imature as this sounds, I hope it does happen in China and Australia:D
By the Way Im in Canada, not America.

i meant i hope it happens in canada :)

p.s. i posted the 274,273,272 and 270 posts

[Jaken 491]

i forgot to tell u i am a child, and ive seen kids my age(i am 11) getting pregnant(yes, they have been through puberty ect, they grow rather quickly) and i am rather shocked. i hope u change your mind about grade 5s getting a relationship.

Not every one is going to get pregnant. I've never met someone under 16 who has gotten pregnant and I have met a lot of people. I'm sure my mind will change eventually but you never know.

P.s- Dude, just register......

[Unregistered]

Not every one is going to get pregnant. I've never met someone under 16 who has gotten pregnant and I have met a lot of people. I'm sure my mind will change eventually but you never know.

P.s- Dude, just register......

Yeah i probably should register but back to the topic. I'd say it is still bad for grade 5s(like me) to be in relationships, after all you won't focus on schoolwork and with kids using computers(again, like me) they probably would have searched on Google what intercourse is and then since they like imitationg what parents they probably will try it... or if they are smart they won't.

[Jaken 491]

Yeah i probably should register but back to the topic. I'd say it is still bad for grade 5s(like me) to be in relationships, after all you won't focus on schoolwork

How do you know they won't focus on schoolwork? To me, that seems like more of a personality thing.
and with kids using computers(again, like me) they probably would have searched on Google what intercourse is and then since they like imitationg what parents they probably will try it... or if they are smart they won't.
Not all kid's in grade 5 are stupid, theres alot of stupid people in all age ranges including aldults. Speaking of adults, there parents should educating there kids about the subject more so they can help prevent is from happening.

P.S- Use more grammer and im editing my post later.

[Unregistered]

How do you know they won't focus on schoolwork? To me, that seems like more of a personality thing.

Not all kid's in grade 5 are stupid, theres alot of stupid people in all age ranges including aldults. Speaking of adults, there parents should educating there kids about the subject more so they can help prevent is from happening.

P.S- Use more grammer and im editing my post later.

I am the same person who posted the posts' number 278 and 276. Well parents should be educating kids but that's not an excuse for kids to be in relationships. And when you said that not all kids are stupid, i think you are correct. Why? Because kids are smart enough to use the internet, find out everything about sex, and then trick people into doing it. After all, according to some reliable sources, a nine year old girl got pregnant(i have no idea how they got through puberty so quickly, so don't ask me), so if anyone else thinks that relationships at that age are all "innocent", i think you are wrong.

[Jaken 491]

I am the same person who posted the posts' number 278 and 276. Well parents should be educating kids but that's not an excuse for kids to be in relationships. And when you said that not all kids are stupid, i think you are correct. Why? Because kids are smart enough to use the internet, find out everything about sex, and then trick people into doing it. After all, according to some reliable sources, a nine year old girl got pregnant(i have no idea how they got through puberty so quickly, so don't ask me), so if anyone else thinks that relationships at that age are all "innocent", i think you are wrong.

I never said all relationships at that age are innocent, but at the same time you shouldn't be paranoid about them turning out wrong.

[Unregistered]

I never said all relationships at that age are innocent, but at the same time you shouldn't be paranoid about them turning out wrong.

Well i guess i shouldn't be so paranoid but we want to have a 100% safe environment for children, or at least as close as possible. And i don't think its going to be a pretty sight seeing grade 5s on dates, but after all its up to the parents and the children.

[Jaken 491]

Well i guess i shouldn't be so paranoid but we want to have a 100% safe environment for children, or at least as close as possible. And i don't think its going to be a pretty sight seeing grade 5s on dates, but after all its up to the parents and the children.

Ths i'll agree on. It should be up to both the parents and the children. but we want to have a 100% safe environment for children, or at least as close as possible.
correction: but we want to have a 100% safe environment for children, or at least as close as possible without being overprotective but still being very protective.

[Unregistered]

Ths i'll agree on. It should be up to both the parents and the children.
correction: but we want to have a 100% safe environment for children, or at least as close as possible without being overprotective but still being very protective.

I am afraid i'll have to agree with you on that one. However Parents/teachers just need to make sure girls don't get pregnant when they are nine.

[Chocolate_New_Orleans]

heaven forbid we tell a kid NO when it's in their best interest. 5th graders... and even this Jaken kid.... have no clue in their egocentric world, why it's not a good idea. To kids, it's all about them, no big picture mentality, and none of them thinks anything bad can happen to them and that they are invincible.

Newsflash....

I don't have to convince my child my reasoning just because "she really, REALLY WANTS TO"

So, no, Jaken, I don't have to allow it to be up to both me AND my child because I know better than a 9-13 y.o., what can happen.

Sorry, when you grow up, you'll realize this too. Until then, stick to conversations with kids, not adults... ;)

[Unregistered]

Until then, stick to conversations with kids, not adults... ;)

I was with you right up through this sentence. Why tell him to listen to other kids instead of adults?

He says we "shouldn't be" paranoid about relationships turning out wrong? Why not, Jaken? Saying adults are paranoid is essentially saying their judgment is awry about the dangers, but that's something you're not really in a position to judge. Your experience is limited -- you've seen your own world and your own history.

Why take the risk of not focusing on schoolwork? A kid often doesn't even realize how important it is. An adult does.

I would encourage you to have many discussions with adults, and when they disagree ask yourself if they're making a judgment call or a statement of fact. If it's a judgment call, the odds are rather higher for them to be right than for you to be right.

[Unregistered]

I was with you right up through this sentence. Why tell him to listen to other kids instead of adults?

He says we "shouldn't be" paranoid about relationships turning out wrong? Why not, Jaken? Saying adults are paranoid is essentially saying their judgment is awry about the dangers, but that's something you're not really in a position to judge. Your experience is limited -- you've seen your own world and your own history.

Why take the risk of not focusing on schoolwork? A kid often doesn't even realize how important it is. An adult does.

I would encourage you to have many discussions with adults, and when they disagree ask yourself if they're making a judgment call or a statement of fact. If it's a judgment call, the odds are rather higher for them to be right than for you to be right.

I posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282 and 284. I absolutely agree with you. Saying that parents are being paranoid is rather stupid. After all, parents have been living for longer than us so they have always been two steps ahead of kids and know whats right and whats wrong. Thank you to the person who posted the thread i quoted, you summed up all my thoughts.

P.S I am also a kid so some of the things i say might be incorrect, even if i don't see it.

[Jaken 491]

I was with you right up through this sentence. Why tell him to listen to other kids instead of adults?

He says we "shouldn't be" paranoid about relationships turning out wrong? Why not, Jaken? Saying adults are paranoid is essentially saying their judgment is awry about the dangers, but that's something you're not really in a position to judge. Your experience is limited -- you've seen your own world and your own history.

Why take the risk of not focusing on schoolwork? A kid often doesn't even realize how important it is. An adult does.

I would encourage you to have many discussions with adults, and when they disagree ask yourself if they're making a judgment call or a statement of fact. If it's a judgment call, the odds are rather higher for them to be right than for you to be right.

I kind of agree with you. I think they should still be somewhat paranoid just not overly paranoid.A decent level of parnoia is healthy in a sense. Some kid's still can focus on school work even in a relationship. I agree strongly when you say my experience is limited, all I can do is express my opinion. You make a few good point's. Good job

P.S - Im going to Ontario tomorrow so I wont be posting for a while.

[Chocolate_New_Orleans]

I was with you right up through this sentence. Why tell him to listen to other kids instead of adults?

He says we "shouldn't be" paranoid about relationships turning out wrong? Why not, Jaken? Saying adults are paranoid is essentially saying their judgment is awry about the dangers, but that's something you're not really in a position to judge. Your experience is limited -- you've seen your own world and your own history.

Why take the risk of not focusing on schoolwork? A kid often doesn't even realize how important it is. An adult does.

I would encourage you to have many discussions with adults, and when they disagree ask yourself if they're making a judgment call or a statement of fact. If it's a judgment call, the odds are rather higher for them to be right than for you to be right.

he's trying to talk to adults like he thinks he's adult enough to do it. He's still a kid, I already know how a kid thinks, I was an 8th grader and remember very well, how irrational my line of thinking was (looking back)

I'm no more concerned with his opinion on life than I would be interested in taking shaving technique tips from an 8th grader who hasn't ever shaved. Make sense?

until he has actual life experiences, I'm not worried about his take on them.

sounds like a kid who doesn't know his role and thinks his opinion is just as important as an adult's.

no vote no voice applies to more than just politics.

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he's trying to talk to adults like he thinks he's adult enough to do it. He's still a kid, I already know how a kid thinks, I was an 8th grader and remember very well, how irrational my line of thinking was (looking back)

I'm no more concerned with his opinion on life than I would be interested in taking shaving technique tips from an 8th grader who hasn't ever shaved. Make sense?

until he has actual life experiences, I'm not worried about his take on them.

sounds like a kid who doesn't know his role and thinks his opinion is just as important as an adult's.

no vote no voice applies to more than just politics.

Well, that makes sense. Its like a 3 year old is trying to teach me the 2 times tables when i already know better.

P.S. I posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287

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he's trying to talk to adults like he thinks he's adult enough to do it. He's still a kid, I already know how a kid thinks, I was an 8th grader and remember very well, how irrational my line of thinking was (looking back)

I'm no more concerned with his opinion on life than I would be interested in taking shaving technique tips from an 8th grader who hasn't ever shaved. Make sense?

until he has actual life experiences, I'm not worried about his take on them.

sounds like a kid who doesn't know his role and thinks his opinion is just as important as an adult's.

no vote no voice applies to more than just politics.

It's not for your benefit that he should be talking to adults. It's for his. If you tell him to just talk to other kids, you're telling him to get info from a notoriously unreliable source.

Moreover, Jaken's a bright kid, though he has some misconceptions here. If he talks to other kids without talking to adults, he could easily convince them it's "the adult's and the kid's" decision. The other kids aren't going to give him much doubt or pause.

"not overly paranoid."

You're begging the question. You have no idea how much paranoia is "too much".

[Instructorus Rex]

If you're going to regularly converse with adults as a kid you should be ready to listen. Doesn't mean that every adult is right or that you should automatically follow their advice, but just about all adults have something you lack: experience. You seriously have no clue about how the world works, and that's honestly not an insult, it's just the natural circumstance young people find themselves in.

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i think it depends on how they are raised and where they live. also in what kind of an environment they are around 24/7. most children think its cool to have boyfriends or girlfriends but i for one dont see a point. there is a 1 in a million chance that they will meet the one they will want to be with their whole lives in 5th grade. maybe some people feel differently but thats how i see it. im a 6th grader and i have never had a boyfriend and im trying to keep it that way untill i am in like 9th or 10th grade. some parents might encourage their children to go out there and get a boyfriend but i dont think its right to do so.

[Unregistered]

i think it depends on how they are raised and where they live. also in what kind of an environment they are around 24/7. most children think its cool to have boyfriends or girlfriends but i for one dont see a point. there is a 1 in a million chance that they will meet the one they will want to be with their whole lives in 5th grade. maybe some people feel differently but thats how i see it. im a 6th grader and i have never had a boyfriend and im trying to keep it that way untill i am in like 9th or 10th grade. some parents might encourage their children to go out there and get a boyfriend but i dont think its right to do so.

Just to add to that i am sure Chinese are raised differently than Americans since i don't really have much interests for girlfriends. And i was just sifting through some old posts and to the people that say not being in a relationship in grade 5 means you have no experience in love/romance. Well, my two older sisters(very older sisters since i am 11yo and they are 25 and 30 yo) didn't even start dating until they were on their last year of college and just 2 months ago my oldest sister got married and is now a very happy yet somewhat busy wife. My other sister is 25 and is in a very happy relationship too though not married yet.

P.S. I posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284, 287 and 290

[Jaken 491]

It's not for your benefit that he should be talking to adults. It's for his. If you tell him to just talk to other kids, you're telling him to get info from a notoriously unreliable source.

Moreover, Jaken's a bright kid, though he has some misconceptions here. If he talks to other kids without talking to adults, he could easily convince them it's "the adult's and the kid's" decision. The other kids aren't going to give him much doubt or pause.

"not overly paranoid."

You're begging the question. You have no idea how much paranoia is "too much".


Thank's for not being totally against me. All I want is too state my opinion on here. I never said anyone had to follow it.First of all I want to say at how amazed I am that this topic is still going. It's nice to know what other people think. Right now, I can't really decide what my final point of veiw on this topic is anymore. I feel wiser than I was last time I posted and I just need to take some time to sort out my thought's. I need time to reavaluate my value's and worldveiw. Your right, I don't have any idea how much paranoia is too much.

And to the guy who posted # 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287- Get an account and register.

[Big buisness guy]

i'll have to agree with the last person who posted, ecept I dont feel your quite right

[12 y old girl]

I just read this whole thread and I think you should go to hell chocholate!!!!!

[Unregistered]

No they should not.

[Unregistered]

No they should not.

Why do you say that, your entitled to an opinion, but please state it entirley please.

[Unregistered]

its amazing that this thread is still going. i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287. anyway i think weve agreed that relationships during grade 5 is ridiculous so i dont think thers a need to continue. and to all those people that are in grade 5 thinking that having girlfriends/boyfriends during grade 5 is good, well, i am a grade 5 student too and i dont think it is good, just to let u know there ARE some grade 5s against this.

[Jaken 491]

its amazing that this thread is still going. i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287. anyway i think weve agreed that relationships during grade 5 is ridiculous so i dont think thers a need to continue. and to all those people that are in grade 5 thinking that having girlfriends/boyfriends during grade 5 is good, well, i am a grade 5 student too and i dont think it is good, just to let u know there ARE some grade 5s against this.

Yeah it amazes me that people still keep this going, but it can't be helped. Your right, dating in grade 5 (not nessasarly in grade 8) is ridiculous. I'm glad I got to hear your opinion on this. Your very mature for someone's who in grade 5.

[Chocolate_New_Orleans]

wow, an endorsement of maturity from an 8th grader. That's all that 5th grader needs so we can jump them all the way to 7th grade now. :rolleyes:

[Unregistered]

Of course, some people never really mature. Some, for example, feel the need to deliver infantile snidely derogatory remarks over the internet to people much younger than them.

[Chocolate_New_Orleans]

Of course, some people never really mature. Some, for example, feel the need to deliver infantile snidely derogatory remarks over the internet to people much younger than them.
Why, are you THAT much older than me :p


My theory, there are kid games and adult games. Even when playing monopoly, uno or even a video game or anything else that kids are able to do. When you add a kid in with the adults, the game changes. Sometimes, that's fine, sometimes though, I don't want to deal with kids in my game.

Same thing applies to conversations. Just because a kid thinks he's ready for adult conversations doesn't mean they are. This is an adult conversation and when kids stick their noses in it, they are, in essence, asking to be treated like an adult, and spoke to like an adult when they say something stupid. If Jaken can't handle being told he's an idiot when he says idiotic things in an adult conversation, then my suggestion is to stick to talking to kids.

[Jaken 491]

Why, are you THAT much older than me :p


My theory, there are kid games and adult games. Even when playing monopoly, uno or even a video game or anything else that kids are able to do. When you add a kid in with the adults, the game changes. Sometimes, that's fine, sometimes though, I don't want to deal with kids in my game.

Same thing applies to conversations. Just because a kid thinks he's ready for adult conversations doesn't mean they are. This is an adult conversation and when kids stick their noses in it, they are, in essence, asking to be treated like an adult, and spoke to like an adult when they say something stupid. If Jaken can't handle being told he's an idiot when he says idiotic things in an adult conversation, then my suggestion is to stick to talking to kids.

First of all, this isn't a pure adult oriented conversation. Second of all, how do you know if i'm ready for a adult conversation or not?. Third of all, this conversation should be something both "kids" and adults should be able to talk about. Just for your information, I can, handle being told i'm an "idiot". I can handle it because I know the kind of conversation i'm getting into. I know that not everyone agree's with my opinions.

[Unregistered]

First of all, this isn't a pure adult oriented conversation.






Yes, it is. This is a teacher oriented message board-you don't see adults trolling teeny bopper sites.

Jaken, don't assume that repeating comments you have heard adults use means that you have gained maturity. True maturity is not limited to understanding right and wrong, it also means fulfilling your obligations to others on a regular basis. As a child you are not in a position to do this because you are not in control of your life. Your parents determine how you spend your day so you are not free to devote your time to others.

When you are old enough to bring home a paycheck, pay all of your bills, take care of routine maintinence, allocate significant resources for the future, take care of your physical and mental health, and still have time left over for others, then you can really be in a relashonship. Until you can assume the responsibilities of an adullt you don't get the rights-which includes being taken seriously in adult conversations.

[Jaken 491]

Yes, it is. This is a teacher oriented message board-you don't see adults trolling teeny bopper sites.

Jaken, don't assume that repeating comments you have heard adults use means that you have gained maturity. True maturity is not limited to understanding right and wrong, it also means fulfilling your obligations to others on a regular basis. As a child you are not in a position to do this because you are not in control of your life. Your parents determine how you spend your day so you are not free to devote your time to others.

When you are old enough to bring home a paycheck, pay all of your bills, take care of routine maintinence, allocate significant resources for the future, take care of your physical and mental health, and still have time left over for others, then you can really be in a relashonship. Until you can assume the responsibilities of an adullt you don't get the rights-which includes being taken seriously in adult conversations.

Yes, i'm sorry for posting on here but once this thread is officially dead, you have my word that I won't post on here again. I never once stated that I have true maturity, I know I still have a long way until that is even close to being acheived.Your correct in stating my role in life for the most part and I don't expect many people to take me seriously, and i'm ok with that. As I have stated before, all i'm trying to do is express my opinion, nothing more, and nothing less. Make of it what you will.

[Unregistered]

i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287. This is probably the last time i need to post on a teacher-orientated board. This is also probably the last time i WANT to post here. With this message i bet this thread is going to be as cold as ice very soon :) I know all the people who have followed the thread have agreed to the fact having girlfriends at 5th grade is bad. And i know i am wayyy too young to post here anyway :( but to prevent new people looking at this thread and posting random things like 'why not have girlfriends at 5th grade". I'll give you the link to the news which has full details of how a 13 year old became a dad: http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/752128/sister-of-dad-13-had-baby-at-same-age
and also: http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/751782/boy-13-becomes-father

NOW, no one can disagree about how 5th graders should not have gfs :)

[Jaken 491]

i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287. This is probably the last time i need to post on a teacher-orientated board. This is also probably the last time i WANT to post here. With this message i bet this thread is going to be as cold as ice very soon :) I know all the people who have followed the thread have agreed to the fact having girlfriends at 5th grade is bad. And i know i am wayyy too young to post here anyway :( but to prevent new people looking at this thread and posting random things like 'why not have girlfriends at 5th grade". I'll give you the link to the news which has full details of how a 13 year old became a dad: http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/752128/sister-of-dad-13-had-baby-at-same-age
and also: http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/751782/boy-13-becomes-father

NOW, no one can disagree about how 5th graders should not have gfs :)
Yeah, I couldn't agree with you more. The only reason I kept posting is because the topic moved on to the rights of expressing ones opinion. Your right, 5th graders should not gf's(or bf's). While there alot of mature kids at that age, there'e still alot of imature kids as well. You made a good point.

[Unregistered]

Yeah, I couldn't agree with you more. The only reason I kept posting is because the topic moved on to the rights of expressing ones opinion. Your right, 5th graders should not gf's(or bf's). While there alot of mature kids at that age, there'e still alot of imature kids as well. You made a good point.

Haha, i know. The thread was at times going off topic, which was why i had to keep reminding everyone we are talking about bfs and gfs and not the right to express opinions.

[Jaken 491]

Haha, i know. The thread was at times going off topic, which was why i had to keep reminding everyone we are talking about bfs and gfs and not the right to express opinions.

And with these last post's, I hope this thread can rest in peace:)

[Chocolate_New_Orleans]

oh for pete's sake...

this is my last post

no this is

no really, this one is


no you hang up first

no you

ok, we'll both hang up on three

1...2....3..........

AAAHHHHH you didn't hang up

well neither did you


Yes indeed, you two are PERFECT examples of why kids aren't ready for adult conversations, adult relationships.

[mickey mouse 6629]

dose anyone but me think that by 5 grade most kids should have a boyfriend or girlfriend?????????????????
I must say that i agree with both of you. I have a girlfriend, but i also hang out with my friends before it's too late

[duh6629]

I agree with the person who asked the question. I have a girlfriend,and she's a model! She is awesome

[Unregistered]

CNO it appears this process has started again(arguing process).
NOOOOOOOO!

i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287.

[Unregistered]

I don't think so because they hardly talk and it does cause hurtfellings if some one thinks that they ever like talk person to person write back thanks person that said NO

[Jaken 491]

I don't think so because they hardly talk and it does cause hurtfellings if some one thinks that they ever like talk person to person write back thanks person that said NO

What do you mean? (improve your grammer please!)
I didn't want to post here again but I guess I will ( but I refuse to bump it if the last post was more than a day old). I still don't want 5th graders to date (to restate my point).

[Chocolate_New_Orleans]

like a moth to a flame. lol you just can't step away

I guess we can now put this debate to rest now that an 8th grader says that 5th graders shouldn't date. :rolleyes:

[Unregistered]

dose anyone but me think that by 5 grade most kids should have a boyfriend or girlfriend?????????????????

yes cause im in 3 grade and i have a boyfriend !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Unregistered]

CNO this thread is getting ridiculous. We had finished arguing a long time ago and now some people(idiots) have poured new oil into the diminishing flames...

Just to restate my view, i believe 5th Graders SHOULD NOT date. And this is from a 6th grader(who used to be in 5th grade when this thread started).

i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287.

[Jaken 491]

CNO this thread is getting ridiculous. We had finished arguing a long time ago and now some people(idiots) have poured new oil into the diminishing flames...

Just to restate my view, i believe 5th Graders SHOULD NOT date. And this is from a 6th grader(who used to be in 5th grade when this thread started).

i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287.


Yeah, I know it's sad, I really thought that this thread would die, but it's not.....

I agree with you totally, I have nothing really to argue about here

This is off topic but: I was in grade 6 when I first started posting on this thread and now i'm in grade 8!. It's amazing how much my veiws have changed.

Dude( or are you a girl? i'm sorry I forgot. And sorry for being so off topic again.).... get an account even if you never have to use it again....I

[Unregistered]

No way! I am the parent of a 9 year old 4th grader. Many have already commented on his good looks and charming personality. Telling him directly and his father and I that he will be a 'heart breaker'. Dad thinks it's okay, but I am absolutely against any type of relationship on that level until High School Junior Year! There are way more important things to worry about, 5th grade, Middle School and other School, Home and Church Activities. He can have all of the friends he likes, but that will be it! I told him that I will be known as the 'Blocker' Mom. He just laughs, but seriously though, kids do not need the extra stess!

[Unregistered]

dume peaple have gf and bf just 2 feel good

[Jaken 491]

dume peaple have gf and bf just 2 feel good

Agreed.Key work Just. If you date someone they should make you feel good and you should make them feel good. It would be stupid to date someone just to feel bad. There should be more to a relationship then just feeling good.

[Unregistered]

As a fourth grade teacher....having a boyfriend/girlfriend is absolutely unnecessary, and completely inappropriate in my opinion when you are 9 YEARS OLD!!! No, I'm not naive enough to think that kids at that age don't notice each other or like each other....and yes, I do know that some say they are "going out" when in fact all they do in their "relationship" is NOT talk to each other. I don't necessarily have a problem with that, what I do have a problem with is CHILDREN dating at that age. Going to the movies unsupervised, holding hands, kissing, and anything else isn't appropriate when you are that young. Be a kid, ride your bike, have fun, and don't put pressure on yourself or let friends put pressure on you to date. I could be way off base, but I think if you date in elementary, you feel compelled, obligated, whatever, to grow up way to fast, do things you're not ready for at a much younger age than you should, and since American society seems to have issues with teaching kids about sex or letting schools teach kids about sex and birth control we see kids at younger and younger ages ending up with STD's and pregnancy. I think a lot of this happens because kids think they need to have a boyfrined/girlfriend when they aren't ready, and since many don't have the tools to be responsible they get involved too young with things they aren't ready for. This all starts to happen if parents ALLOW their kids to date in elementary. As far as I'm concerned....if you're not old enough to drive yourself and your date to the movies, or wherever you aren't old enough to date.
Yes, I know kids do this stuff behind parents backs, but I truly believe that if parents talk to their kids, explain what their concerns are, and let kids share theirs, kids may not feel the need to date when they are too young.

Just my opinion.

[Unregistered]

As a fourth grade teacher....having a boyfriend/girlfriend is absolutely unnecessary, and completely inappropriate in my opinion when you are 9 YEARS OLD!!! No, I'm not naive enough to think that kids at that age don't notice each other or like each other....and yes, I do know that some say they are "going out" when in fact all they do in their "relationship" is NOT talk to each other. I don't necessarily have a problem with that, what I do have a problem with is CHILDREN dating at that age. Going to the movies unsupervised, holding hands, kissing, and anything else isn't appropriate when you are that young. Be a kid, ride your bike, have fun, and don't put pressure on yourself or let friends put pressure on you to date. I could be way off base, but I think if you date in elementary, you feel compelled, obligated, whatever, to grow up way to fast, do things you're not ready for at a much younger age than you should, and since American society seems to have issues with teaching kids about sex or letting schools teach kids about sex and birth control we see kids at younger and younger ages ending up with STD's and pregnancy. I think a lot of this happens because kids think they need to have a boyfrined/girlfriend when they aren't ready, and since many don't have the tools to be responsible they get involved too young with things they aren't ready for. This all starts to happen if parents ALLOW their kids to date in elementary. As far as I'm concerned....if you're not old enough to drive yourself and your date to the movies, or wherever you aren't old enough to date.
Yes, I know kids do this stuff behind parents backs, but I truly believe that if parents talk to their kids, explain what their concerns are, and let kids share theirs, kids may not feel the need to date when they are too young.

Just my opinion.

Thank god that it isnt only JUST the yr 8(Jaken) and yr 6(me) trying to tell those bunch of little yr 4s and 5s to not to date. I think we as kids should just listen to the parents. After all, they have had about 20 years of experience in life, and we have had only about 10. So to restate my point, kids SHOULD NOT date in elementary school, for the many reasons i stated probably a few pages before. Hopefully this is the end of this thread. And to Jaken, i am a boy haha, so dont even think about trying to date me lol. joking joking. btw i cant be bothered to register an account, i am just hoping this would calm down soon.

i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287.

[Jaken 491]

Thank god that it isnt only JUST the yr 8(Jaken) and yr 6(me) trying to tell those bunch of little yr 4s and 5s to not to date. I think we as kids should just listen to the parents. After all, they have had about 20 years of experience in life, and we have had only about 10. So to restate my point, kids SHOULD NOT date in elementary school, for the many reasons i stated probably a few pages before. Hopefully this is the end of this thread. And to Jaken, i am a boy haha, so dont even think about trying to date me lol. joking joking. btw i cant be bothered to register an account, i am just hoping this would calm down soon.

i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287.

True, there does need too be more respect for parents. I still agree with you, they shouldn't date in elementry. Luckily for me, i'm just 1 or 2 years away from the age where dating will be common. Haha, don't worry,I already have a girl I want to ask out. I also hope that this thread will end soon or calm down.

[Chocolate_New_Orleans]

oh good gosh. Jaken has been posting on this thread for 3 years now:rolleyes:

[Jaken 491]

oh good gosh. Jaken has been posting on this thread for 3 years now:rolleyes:

I know, i'm pretty much addicted to posting on it.:D Sorry for keeping it alive.......

[Unregistered]

I know, i'm pretty much addicted to posting on it.:D Sorry for keeping it alive.......

Yeah, i've been posting here for 1 year already. And like Jaken, i am addicted to posting on it as well :D And sorry as well for keeping it alive, but it would be alive anyway with those little yr 5s(hey i was a yr 5 like 4 months ago too lol) saying that they should date...

And my usuaal signature...

i was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287.

[Unregistered]

I am a 11 year old girl in 5th grade their are 3 possiblites of boys I like how do I know who to pick?

[Smart Woman]

does anyone but me think that by 5 grade most kids should have a boyfriend or girlfriend??

i do think that kids in 4th and 5th graders should be boyfriend and girlfriend because everyday when i walk into my classroom there always kids makingout or flirting and everything else.Then after school we go downtown and have a bite to eat with eachother i also hope then when little kids reach 4th and 5th grade they will do the same,.
i hope you listen to this........
if you have a qute say it thanx
buhbyez

That's how girls get pregnant have you thought about that and babies hurt when they come and if your'e still in you teens they just ruin your teen life no prom no more having fun with friends and who ever the father is just isn't responcible in his teens, so I think that a girl\boy should have a girl\boy friend tell the age of 19yrs.

[Smart Woman]

I am a 11 year old girl in 5th grade their are 3 possiblites of boys I like how do I know who to pick?

Listen you are in the fifth grade boys just should not be a option, but if you not taking that advice pick the one that is sensitive but still brave but smart.

[Unregistered]

What is age appropriate? It is "normal" to have crushes on members of the opposite sex, even at very early ages. My mother reminded me the other day that I had a mutual crush on a boy named Eric in preschool. We would wear each others coats at recess to show our affection. I know, it's goofy.

I think that telling children that they are too young to have a boyfriend or girlfriend is doing them a disservice. It is a perfect chance to discuss differences in boys and girls, behaviors that are appropriate and inappropriate, and to answer questions about the human body. As children get older, we move closer and closer to the details associated with sexual attraction and the mechanics of the various processes.

My mother asked the pediatrician what she should say to me when I asked this question, and he told her to just tell what she thought I could understand, but to be straight forward and not say anything that was incorrect.
My mother tried this so she says. When I was 2 I asked her where I came from and she just told me I came out of her tummy. She said a few days later I asked her again...and she told me the same thing. The next day she heard me asking my dad. He told me he got me out of a box of cracker jacks. Mom said I never asked again.

[Unregistered]

I think once a child turs at least 13 or 14 they can have a bf. If younger I dont think they really need to have one. It's the parents opinion though.

The words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" have different meanings, and different behaviors associated with them, at different ages. As long as there is no inappropriate behavior, having a gf or bf is harmless. It's actually cute most of the time.

[Jaken 491]

I am a 11 year old girl in 5th grade their are 3 possiblites of boys I like how do I know who to pick?
Pick the one who best fits what your looking for in a guy. Make sure they're someone you can connect with and someone your confortable around. Register and Pm me if you want more help.
Listen you are in the fifth grade boys just should not be a option, but if you not taking that advice pick the one that is sensitive but still brave but smart.
But that bring's up the question. What is smartness and what is bravness?

On the side note: I definitly know who i'm going to ask out next year.

[Unregistered]

of course they should be allowed to have boyfriends in fifth grade! that is a wonderful time to learn how to be friends with the opposite sex before hormones kick in and make things all difficult. My daughter has a boyfriend and I asked what that means to have a boyfriend at her age and what do they do? Her answer was " he saves a place for me to sit at lunch, and we hold hands sometimes in the recess line". They don't see each other outside of school, and don't talk on the phone or anything (which I would allow with limitation and only when I'm present, but it hasn't come up yet). So, I don't see the harm in it.

[tatyanap]

Get it right woman.Just cause ur a preteen in grade 6 does not mean you do not know anything I am only 12 and I have been in longer relationshps than you.I do not know why you adults think children don't have minds of their own if we did not we would be repeating grade school until we were 25 ! You adults need to learn something children respect their bodies,their life,and their parents I sure know I do.We don't just say"Hey I like you lets get in bed and have children".Get ur advice right befor you say it !

[Unregistered]

i think that yr5 is a great time for kids to have a boyfriend/ girlfriend. i have 5 kids - 15yo boy twins, 14yo boy, 12yo girl + 11yo boy.
My eldest boys had their first girlfriends at 9, and by 10 they had pashed many girls. now, at 15, are very experienced. my next son had his first girlfriend around the same age and continues going very far with girls now. my daughter had her first boyfriend at around age 10 and has a very close boyfriend now. my youngest son has his first girlfriend at the moment, and pashed her for the first time on her birthday 2 weeks ago.
they are happy with my decisions in letting them do as mmuch as they think is sensible and i trust them.
i think you should let your child have a boyfriend/ girlfriend if he/she wants to.

Oh my gosh, I can't believe Im reading this! Have you ever thought about teaching your children some self-restraint and self respect! I lost my virginity very young and it was something I regret and wish my mum had have had a bit more control over the situation, not that its her fault. You'd be kidding yourself if you think that your child/ren aren't having sex or aren't too far away from it. Children, and thats what they are until they are 18, 19 even 20, dont need the complication of having the pressures of being intimate with the opposite sex. Children dont know what they want, and you are just asking to be a young grandparent. Hormones take over reason when things start to get intimate and to a young person it all feels wonderful, consequences aren't crossing their mind. Wow, I can't believe there are people like you out there!

[Unregistered]

I already have one and she hot. We were just smooching.

[Unregistered]

does anyone but me think that by 5 grade most kids should have a boyfriend or girlfriend??

i do think that kids in 4th and 5th graders should be boyfriend and girlfriend because everyday when i walk into my classroom there always kids makingout or flirting and everything else.Then after school we go downtown and have a bite to eat with eachother i also hope then when little kids reach 4th and 5th grade they will do the same,.
i hope you listen to this........
if you have a qute say it thanx
buhbyez

Wow...I dont agree with you. I think kids should be careful about who they associate with. You dont want to end up pregnant do you? Or you dont want to end up as a father at 15, do you? I dont think you do. Sex can ruin your life. I am careful with my daughters. Well one I adopted and the sad thing is....she is a lesbian. So I secertly tell my real daughter to keep on the watch. Not that I dont love my other daughter. I just dont want them to get to close. And they sleep in the same room. So be careful about how you sleep with.

[Chocolate_New_Orleans]

Well one I adopted and the sad thing is....she is a lesbian. So I secertly tell my real daughter to keep on the watch. Not that I dont love my other daughter. I just dont want them to get to close. And they sleep in the same room. So be careful about how you sleep with.


bwahahahaha, that's awesome. You're doing the right thing.

[Unregistered]

I would certainly not tell a 4th or 5th grader not to date. (not unless I knew them and had good reason) I would tell ANYONE considering dating to set standards. To write these standards down and never waver on what you have written. I am a 21 year old virgen, who is engaged and finishing her degree. I say WRITE down your standards as young people because if standards are not written down, it is easy when in compromising situations to negotiate with yourself. and COMPROMISE, when you compromise your own standards you always lose. To young people. Wait to have sex. What is the point of explorying eachother? Are you not degrading one another if you indeed plan to marry later on? Have fun, hang out, kiss even, get to know eachother, but do not make mistakes that you know you will regret. Plan for dating. If you do not want to date someone who cusses, never do. If you do not want a boyfriend/girlfriend who pressures you about sexual things, if they pressure you, break up. (if they can not be understanding, and not pressure you). You only have one life to live, live it right. Set goals, and work to attain them. (and it's perfectly okay to have fun in the process.)

[Unregistered]

do you groap on a fram

[Unregistered]

absolutely not, they are way too young for that.

I completly agree. I am in the 5th grade and I think that at that age you are not always mature enough. I have alittle in my class. BYE!!!!

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i think that yr5 is a great time for kids to have a boyfriend/ girlfriend. i have 5 kids - 15yo boy twins, 14yo boy, 12yo girl + 11yo boy.
My eldest boys had their first girlfriends at 9, and by 10 they had pashed many girls. now, at 15, are very experienced. my next son had his first girlfriend around the same age and continues going very far with girls now. my daughter had her first boyfriend at around age 10 and has a very close boyfriend now. my youngest son has his first girlfriend at the moment, and pashed her for the first time on her birthday 2 weeks ago.
they are happy with my decisions in letting them do as mmuch as they think is sensible and i trust them.
i think you should let your child have a boyfriend/ girlfriend if he/she wants to.

WOW!!!! what the hell r u raising???? i see y u have so many u prolly started at the mere age of ten

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Oh god,

Here it goes again. I cant believe that this thread is so everlasting! I've been posting on this thread for about a year and a quarter! Reason still stands that getting a girlfriend in year 6 or under high school is unacceptable. And this is coming from a 12 year old. As tempting as it is to "enjoy" girlfriends, i'm just (hopefully) not so stupid to actually have a GF, let alone "enjoy" them.

I was the guy who posted posts' number 270, 272, 273, 276, 278, 280, 282, 284 and 287.

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they do because i have 1 and im a 4th graders

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I believe that as long as it doesn't cause problems it's perfectly fine. Kids should mainly ba able to decide that themselves, unless things bad occur.

I had my firsrt kiss at age 6, and turned out perfectly fine. If you are worried about it changing the child or making them into something unappropriate, don't worry.
To this day, 8 years later, I still have never "made-out" with anyone, so it shouldn't effect the child.

If it ends up effecting the child, talk to them.

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i think that yr5 is a great time for kids to have a boyfriend/ girlfriend. i have 5 kids - 15yo boy twins, 14yo boy, 12yo girl + 11yo boy.
My eldest boys had their first girlfriends at 9, and by 10 they had pashed many girls. now, at 15, are very experienced. my next son had his first girlfriend around the same age and continues going very far with girls now. my daughter had her first boyfriend at around age 10 and has a very close boyfriend now. my youngest son has his first girlfriend at the moment, and pashed her for the first time on her birthday 2 weeks ago.
they are happy with my decisions in letting them do as mmuch as they think is sensible and i trust them.
i think you should let your child have a boyfriend/ girlfriend if he/she wants to.

Your attitude toward this is alarming. Please tell me that you are not in my state of Pa let alone my school district. Go get a book and read the detriments of this behavior at such a young age. I hope you will enjoy being a Grandma at a young age.

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does anyone but me think that by 5 grade most kids should have a boyfriend or girlfriend??

i do think that kids in 4th and 5th graders should be boyfriend and girlfriend because everyday when i walk into my classroom there always kids makingout or flirting and everything else.Then after school we go downtown and have a bite to eat with eachother i also hope then when little kids reach 4th and 5th grade they will do the same,.
i hope you listen to this........
if you have a qute say it thanx
buhbyez

i think that that is a bad. because kids should not be dating that young they are just kids still.so they should live it up they are not going to be kids forever

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they are to young to be dating i waited untill i was 17 wow.....biggy

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i was a goody 2 shoes

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Wow...I dont agree with you. I think kids should be careful about who they associate with. You dont want to end up pregnant do you? Or you dont want to end up as a father at 15, do you? I dont think you do. Sex can ruin your life. I am careful with my daughters. Well one I adopted and the sad thing is....she is a lesbian. So I secertly tell my real daughter to keep on the watch. Not that I dont love my other daughter. I just dont want them to get to close. And they sleep in the same room. So be careful about how you sleep with.

.... haha she will not be getting fun in ur house....loook at it that way

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By 4th/5th grade I don't think a child should have boyfriends or girlfriends. When they get into middle school you would not believe what goes on. Kids are too young and immature at that age. High school is soon enough. I am a mother of 5 children and if they had girlfriends in elementary school I sure didn't know. I work at the same school and I would have been told or had seen it for myself. We so not need elementary kids having kids. AAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH